What comes to mind when you read the title of this post?
I like, no, I love the word boundary. I didn’t always, but today, it suggests limits that lead to freedom as opposed to arbitrary restrictions (as I once thought). I’ve always questioned what is expected of me, where the lines are, how anything – from my job to my personal space – is defined. So, this word suggests lines that create definition, safety, security.
I dislike the association that comes with busyness. In my mind, this word conjures up images of being rushed, hurried, stressed. It is interesting because I am a go-getter, someone who likes to be productive, check things off my to-do list, and who generally believes it is better if these tasks happen in the most efficient way & time possible. Yet I do not like to simply “be busy.” I want to be intentional and use my time well, but my perspective on productive time might not be yours.
We have access to more knowledge, information and technology than we can keep up with in today’s world. Just going to the grocery store can be overwhelming with the number of options there are from which to choose: brand, price, quantity. Not to mention, everyone defines successful time management in their own way. No wonder I (and maybe you?) struggle to maintain boundaries in the busyness of life.
I’m not sure if this struggle is American, female, first-world, or a blend of them all, but I do think it is often a struggle for many, and I often wonder if it is a mostly invisible one. Are we blind to the true way boundaries (or lack thereof) affect us personally, and do we miss how our decisions are affecting those around us, even those we think we know well? Is our hesitancy rooted in fear – that we will miss out, make the wrong choice, not do (and consequently, not be) enough?
Can you relate? In what ways do you try to create, maintain or limit & avoid boundaries in your life? Are these ways necessary? helpful?